“Do The Right Thing”
December 2012, I decided to get back to the gym. I picked up a little winter weight and finally felt like I needed to do something about it. I take different aerobics classes but this particular night I decided to mix it up and take a Zumba class that I love. I was so excited about taking the class again that when I got home I posted on Facebook, “I took a Zumba class tonight that kicked my butt!” A couple of people clicked “like” on my post and a couple of people commented. Renee, one of my good childhood friends that I speak with regularly posted a comment. We went back and forth, laughing and joking like we always do.
I kept asking myself, why on earth would someone post something like that on such a public forum? I would never do that to ANYONE! My head was spinning. I just couldn’t rationally process it in my mind. I only thought for a split second that maybe she was playing, but because there was no follow-up message or some sort of indication that she was only teasing, I took it VERY personal. I went back to the original post to re-read what she wrote. I became angry and responded to Amy by divulging some extremely personal information about her. I then warned her not to get on my page and speak to me that way again! The moment I hit the send button, I knew in my heart and mind that I was wrong. I knew what I had just done was totally out of line and completely out of character for me.
Steven finally called me back. He couldn’t believe what Amy had said to me, but he was sure that she was only playing. He assured me that all would be well if I just reached out to her, apologize and explain to her how I was feeling. Steven thought that I should know that Amy is employed at a store in the same mall my company is in. God, are you kidding me?? Steven implored me to make it right soon before I ran into her. Weeks went by and I was still dragging my feet on this issue. My mother had been asking me daily if I had contacted Amy and each time I would regretfully tell her no. This load was getting heavier and I was only making it worse by not doing what I was supposed to do. In my mind I just didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know how to approach the situation and I was feeling like Facebook is what got me into this mess. I didn’t want to send Amy a long winded message. I felt like it was impersonal and I really wanted her to receive what I was saying and forgive me.
Without hesitation and without skipping a beat I walked right over and stood in front of her. She didn’t move or shun me away, but she was guarded. I immediately said “Amy, I owe you an apology. What I said to you on Facebook was totally wrong and inappropriate. I have been feeling a little sensitive about my weight lately and your comment caught me off guard and hurt my feelings. Still, I behaved poorly and I sincerely apologize to you”. Her eyes instantly welled up and she said “I really appreciate you saying that to me, I really do. This has made my day. I was being sarcastic on Facebook and would never say anything to hurt you”. My own eyes were watery because I knew what I had done was wrong, but was hopeful that my apology would give her some peace. She hugged me and we embraced and I felt the need to reiterate my apology again a little more detailed because I wanted her to know how very sorry I was. Not only did she accept my apology but she suggested that we get together for dinner soon since we work so close and catch up. We have yet to do that but I look forward to when we do.
This was a divine moment that was drawn up like a basketball play, coached by the Lord. I knew instantly that only He could have orchestrated that very moment. It was so perfect! No one else in that section of the mall, on Christmas Eve except for me and Amy? I gathered from this how amazing God really is and how when we don’t do what is right, He will sometimes create a situation to almost force us to do the right thing. I still had a choice as to whether or not I was going to walk away from Amy or walk toward her. God gives us options, but there was just no way that I could ignore her so I chose to seize the moment. I suspect in this life I will make more mistakes but this experience will be a personal reminder for me to not drag my feet on matters, especially when the Lord is asking me to do what is right.