Tiffany A. Wilson – Dreaming About Mr.

Thinking back, I’ve always been a dreamer. The rapper Nas said, “I know a billionaire that has everything, but a family.”* This is sad to me, yet this lyric points to my belief that every human being is created to love and be loved. Therefore, at the core of the billionaire, the millionaire or the working class guy or gal there rests a commonality, a weight, to experience love.

When I was a teenager, I, like many other girls dreamed of the prince charming guy, rolling up with Levi’s on and the promise of the white picket fence. I can vividly recall pitching this white picket fence idea to my first love. He would snicker at my dream, like hmm?!? And, I would gaze into his eyes, like umm!!! Despite our youth and lack of agreement, I seriously believed that we could “make it last forever,” in my best Keith Sweat voice! Well, my fanciful high hopes for my teenage thug love were quickly terminated. Although, the relationship fizzled, the core of my desire to be in a loving relationship was still alive and well. Unfortunately, I wrongly placed my desire to be loved on Mr. Gansta, Mr. Wangsta and Mr. Pranksta. I can laugh now, but gosh living it was brutal.

Now, over two decades later, I can reflect back to my teens and say, “Why was I dreaming at such a young age for commitment and the white picket fence?” No offense to my parents, but they didn’t represent an example of commitment and marriage, yet I wanted it! Huh? In short, I’ve come to learn that the dreams of Mr. that were bubbling up out of my heart were more of an internal thing than an external thing. Externally, I wasn’t sure if a man could be trusted for the long term, yet internally there was this pull to do it differently, to dream beyond what my eyes could see.

Well, did mind over matter work? Did my dream come true? Nope, not yet! Instead, I have experienced love in two majorly grand ways: First, the love of God and second, the love of self. Sorry, wish I had at least a firework sound for you, but this is my wonderful truth. Believe me, I use to wish I had the quick love story, like girl, one day I was rushing through an airport and BOOM! Mr. Enchanting popped up and said, “slow-w-w down beautiful.” Nah!!! Instead, my love story has been a hard knocks road to self-discovery, gripped with God’s loving, but heavy hand guiding me to restoration. See, I was so low that I had to cry out to a God that I didn’t really know existed to save me. I was minutes away from depression winning, but God had other plans for me. Hallelujah!!! God said, “not only am I real, but I’m going to reveal myself to you in such a personal and supernatural way that you’ll naturally go tell others.” Like the Samaritan woman at the well, I can’t help but say, “Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did” (John 4:29).

So, I write today to say thankfully, love has not escaped me…love found me and when it is time, Mr. Wow will find his Ms. Good Thing.

Believe God Lovely People, xoxo Tiffany
*NAS, Song: The World’s an Addiction.

Having been a teen mom, and raising her now 24 year old daughter as a single young woman, Tiffany knows what it’s like to struggle, to battle feelings of inadequacy and a distorted self-image. However, with continuous self-development and God’s grace she has overcome many of these obstacles. Tiffany’s passion is teaching young women and those at a disadvantage life skills and how to identify and live out their authentic selves. Although, she’s a native of Boston, Massachusetts – Philadelphia is where she currently lives and calls home. 



0 thoughts on “Tiffany A. Wilson – Dreaming About Mr.

  1. Wow Ty really loved your guest blogger! I loved that Tiffy's first love is G-d and now her self. I also feel I am learning to trust and love G-d again after many trials and tribulations. I will keep on trusting G-d and believe that with him all things are possible. ( Even to find a loving partner). The most important thing is that he is into G-d to.
    Thanks for sharing.

  2. Hadassah, Thanks for your compliment. God really helps us to develop and strengthen a healthy view of love. Continue believing and trusting God 🙂

    Ty, Thanks for having me!!!

  3. Tiff, thank you for being so transparent! Your testimony of finding love (God) shows He is present even when we look in all the wrong places, for his pressing power stays close. Your story is inspiring for women who are on that quest to find their Boaz…for as we see true lasting love begins with God-FIRST! 🙂

  4. Thanks Tiffany for sharing such an important piece of your life with everyone. It was really nice to hear how you put God as your first love and then yourself. That was deep because I never looked at life that way. I do know that you should love yourself though because if you don't you wouldn't be able to love anyone else. Great blog, I love it!

  5. Mrs. Butler! 😉 I'm so glad you read the blog and enjoyed it! Wow!! Thanks for your honesty. God is continually teaching me what love is and what love isn't. It's really cool…

  6. Tiffany, glad you could share your testimony of strength, courage and determination. And as someone once told me "You gotta walk that thang' out," so continue walking 🙂 J.Lane

  7. Tiffany, I appreciate you sharing your wisdom and your humility so openly. You could write a book that never ends because your wisdom far succeeds your being. I can see what God has done with you and for you and what you have done for others. Keep being the pretty mind, pretty heart, and most importantly the beautiful soul that you are. Trust me, there is no need to look for Mr. Prince Charming because he is looking for you. Just keep doing what you are doing, love it!

  8. Tiffany, you never fail the call that God has ask of you. I'm so very happy that you shared this with me. It was such a delight to read that I had to share with many other's. God Bless Sis…..Shawntel 🙂

  9. I really appreciate you sharing your story. It was an eyeopening verse that I would like to quote
    ” Nah!!! Instead, my love story has been a hard knocks road to self-discovery, gripped with God’s loving, but heavy hand guiding me to restoration. See, I was so low that I had to cry out to a God that I didn’t really know existed"
    With that being said…I remeber at a point of my life when I didn't love myself and I absolutely had to give my all to my faith in God and believing in miracles ….I'm better now by the full grace of God. He gave me another chance to li e again.

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